Written By: Tina Pierce LMFT
I often tell my daughter how beautiful I think she is. One day she returned the compliment in a unique way. She asked me if I thought one of her daddy’s friends was handsome. I said he was, but not as handsome as daddy. She beamed with pride saying yes daddy is very handsome. So I added that her little brothers are lucky to look like daddy. Then this vibrant little girl stopped me in my tracks by saying no, baby looks like mommy and mommy is beautiful.
I know it is hard to feel good about yourself in a culture that increasingly idealizes sex and perfectly shaped bodies. However, it is important to remember all of that is learned behavior. Think back to when you were a child around age five or six. If you are like most children, you thought your mother was the most beautiful woman in the world. And you were right, she is beautiful. She cared for you, encouraged you, loved you, and guided you as best she could. Then the world snuck in and tried to taint your view of beauty. But still she is beautiful continuing to care and nurture well into your later years.
Even most teens, would still say that the most beautiful woman they know is their mom. One teen told me the most beautiful part of her mom were the stretch marks on her stomach because every mark represented her and her sisters and her mom’s willingness to have them. Another teen told me that her mom is the most beautiful person she knows because she is so strong and has worked so hard to raise her and her siblings. So moms, next time you look at yourself in the mirror see the woman you truly are. Strong, beautiful, and confident.
Tina Pierce LMFT
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